::alio!::

Putting it Tactfully

Rats. Now I feel like such a cyber-loser, with only two responses. Ouch. I've worked out a way to put it - it's below. But first:

As you may know, my grandmother has been slowly making things miserable with her refusal to acknowledge my engagement. This weekend my parents sat her down and made it known that this behaviour is not acceptable, and that perhaps she should call me to apologize. She denied knowledge of anything that has happened, which is bullshit, but agreed to call. She called, left a message, called, and left another message (I know it's a little catty, but I wanted to give her a little taste of what it feels like to be ignored), and today, I called her back.

I may have been a little harsh, but I wasn't planning on letting her get away with anything. Basically, she said that, in her mind, she hadn't done anything wrong. So I told her that it didn't matter what it looked like to her, it mattered what the whole family was seeing. Then I informed her that, if she was as interested in this whole life change of mine as she said she was, she should show it. To me. And to Andy. And not to talk about us like we weren't there. And I called her on a few blatant lies.

Let's establish that this woman is not really used to being disagreed with. My mother disagreed with her this morning, and I disagreed with her this afternoon. So she hung up on me. We shall see what this means in the near future. I'm not too fussed, really, because if it comes to a choice between a grandmother who refuses to change and the man I have chosen to spend the rest of my life with, I choose Andy. It's an easy choice.

Anyway, so that's one issue of putting things carefully. Here's the other. Let me know what you think. If it's good, it'll go in the registry section of our wedding website (hint, hint, Chel . . .)

The Registry

This may seem a little unorthodox, but bear with us:

We have been living together for some time, and so have a very well-established household. There is absolutely nothing that we need to make our home complete.

There is, however, something (or some things) that we very much want. After years of discussion and debate, we have decided that our future together would not be fully whole without a dog or two around the house.

Then, after much research (and some argument), Andy has set his heart on a Pembroke Welsh Corgi, and Alison has fallen in love with the Brussels Griffon.

Neither of these pretty pups comes cheap, however, and so we have set up a savings account for the dogs. Whatever we have to spare will go there to accrue interest until we can afford the purchase and care of our furry friends.

If you would like to help us in this endeavour, you would make these additions to our family a wedding present that we will treasure for many years to come.

For those traditionalists among you, we have also registered at M.E.C. . . .

Posted by Ally at May 28, 2008 08:29 PM