married . . . and children?
MARRIAGE.
Scary subject.
What's freakier is that it's coming up in conversation more and more these
days.
Half my friends and relatives my age are married. Another quarter is getting
married within the next two years. There's another one every day. Yesterday
I find out Damon's getting married in June. Then I talk to Sam today and she
and Jay are engaged as of yesterday.
I have to be a BRIDESMAID. On 7 April 2007.
There's pressure from all sides (including familial pressure) to tie the
knot. I'm even reading BOOKS about people who get married.
Tonight Dave and Henna (married two years ago) arrive at my house from England with my
brand-new "nephew" Arun. When they leave, I have no doubt the pressure will
increase tenfold.
I've even discussed this stuff with the Pie.
(Don't freak out, we're not getting married.)
WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON?
Can we establish here that I am only 23 years old, with a good six and a half
years of school left in me, a career to fight for, and other pursuits to -- um
-- pursue?
Please.
I can't even take care of
myself, let alone a husband and possible
children (who I am
NOT naming ELMER, for the record).
Sheesh.
Chill out.
Although I always put marriage into my career plans, figuring out that I'd
prolly get married about the time I finished my MA, have kids while doing my
PhD, take them into the field with me and all that nonsense. Because you
really should have as many kids as you can before 30. Having kids after that
is scary. Aside from the things that could possibly be wrong with them,
you'll be too old to enjoy them when they're adults and become interesting.
BUT WAIT! I finish my MA NEXT YEAR!
The heat is on, folks. The heat is on.
Posted by Ally at September 29, 2005 06:09 PM